Self validating definition
Since I received very little validation as I was growing, and I never saw my parents validate themselves, I had no idea how to do it or even that it was possible to validate myself.Now I know that self-validation is not only possible, but absolutely necessary to feel happy, inwardly peaceful, secure, worthy and have loving relationships with others.And, this reduction in turn feeds back, not only to justify the original "prophecy" but also to perpetuate it.According to Thomas Schelling’s classic (1978) treatment, the term “self-fulfilling prophecy” originally referred to a process in which a negative but quite possibly baseless expectation or prediction generates a feedback loop that ends by producing exactly the expected negative result: the diminution or defeat of something originally stable and seemingly solid.A self-validating reduction is kind of self-fulfilling prophecy of which the result is a dramatic reduction in a person, group, or natural being.
All feelings are informational, letting you know when you are abandoning yourself with your self-judgments and various addictions, and when others are being uncaring toward you and disconnected from you.Validation means to express understanding and acceptance of another person's internal experience, whatever that might be. Validation builds relationships and helps ease upset feelings.Knowing that you are understood and that your emotions and thoughts are accepted by others is powerful. Self-validation is accepting your own internal experience, your thoughts and feelings.A self-validating reduction is a self-fulfilling prophecy in which one of the main effects of the "prophecy" is to reduce someone or something in the world.It acts to make that person or thing less than they, or it, are or could be; or it diminishes some part of the world’s richness, depth and promise.
One of the four options we have in any problem situation is acceptance.