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, it said what I needed to hear--I needed to know what I was up against, needed to have the seriousness emphasized.
When the golden "overachiever" who *thinks* she can just let "everything roll off her back" ended up in the Psych ward three times and was immersed in a thrice weekly therapy she used to think was rubbish--the author's blunt rhetoric and assessment was quite helpful to me.
This is true of many therapists and those who write on the topic, not just Dr. People say that borderlines are Incapable of empathy, incapable of mutually satisfying adult relationships--it implies to me that somehow, the pathologies and distortions of BPD are so deeply rooted, so inherent, that it is highly unlikely they will ever change. Many therapists don't seem to think the "extra mile" is worth it.
Maybe this is because so much of the book centers on crisis management. Alas, in the world of psychiatry today, there are far more who believe that borderlines cannot change their mindset in any really fundamental way, than those who believe they can. Eerily similar to the marks of a lousy character, let's face it.
All beginnings are lovely – or so the sage proclaims. Two individuals come together – attraction, lust, love, personality styles, personal and family histories, attachment and life styles collide – and there you are in the middle of a daring, challenging, and steamy relationship.
If this ship becomes a timeless elegant regatta or a wrack is heavily determined by the personality styles of the involved partners’.
” Sooner rather than later he starts to resent walking on eggshells around his lover.Because of this, the speed at which my emotions fluctuate is breathtaking, and they tend to be extremes of emotion, such as elation or utter despair.I have to work hard at managing and regulating my emotions.This is very difficult, and sometimes I get overwhelmed." —Andrea Shaw "Think of someone who is highly sensitive living in a cruel world.Not only does the cruel world not value sensitivity, but it inflicts trauma.
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a mental illness affecting approximately 1.6% of adults in the U. Symptoms — usually beginning in adolescence and early adulthood — include emotional instability, extreme reactions, distorted sense of self, chronic feelings of emptiness, self-harm, and suicidal thoughts or attempts.